Anxiety is tough. Whether you wake up with an anxiety cloud above your head or you have a moment in the day that throws you into a whirlwind of anxiety, it will more than likely have a less than positive affect on your day, which is why it is so hard to stay positive. I am by no means a master in staying positive when I don’t feel like it but there are the odd things I like to do on all the other days that will hopefully make an “anxiety day” feel a little better.
Firstly, find little ways to reflect positively on every day. This sounds so weird and I know that most people will think “yeah, I will do it for 6 days then forget to do it for the other 359” but honestly, this works so well. I have a Filofax that I plan my whole life in so I am always going to it to write something in anyway. At the end of each day I write something that has happened that has been positive so that the next year on the same day I can see what amazing thing and I can feel all warm and gooey about it. Whether that’s “my positive thing for today was just getting through it without giving up on life” or “I met Beyoncé today and she said she liked my eyebrows” it doesn’t matter, just something positive so you can go to bed thinking of that cute nice thing instead of anything negative. May sound silly but it works.
If you are finding it hard to accept yourself, your anxiety can always creep up on you a little easier. If you find it hard to stay positive about who you are then getting yourself into a little bit of a wobbler seems to be easier. Sit down in a place where you feel comfortable and for every negative thing you think about yourself, state something you like about yourself. For example, I really don’t like my teeth. I, for some reason, was told that if I didn’t want braces that I didn’t have to have them so now as I am over 18 I can’t have them without paying thousands of pounds leaving me with some very uneven teeth. But, I really like my hair. I am always experimenting with it and I really like it now it has a slight ombre to it. If you do this for long enough, you start to think of positive things much quicker, and that will immediately bring your mood up.
Additionally, kind of relating the first thing, if you have had an AH-MAZ-ZING day that has been unbelievably good, don’t just forget about it, write every little good detail about the day down and keep it in a diary or something. So many people forget about the good things and focus on the bad instead. Do you remember all the times someone said your hair looked nice or that they liked your outfit? NO. Do you remember when some horrible person said that your nose looked huge or your fingers were weirdly long? YES. It plays on your mind for ages yet you don’t look at yourself in the mirror when you had the same nice outfit on going “yes my outfit is on point today!” Instead you go “does my nose look big in this dress?” and it’s such a shame! If you have had something nice happen to you, write it down or make a little video to your future anxious self explaining why that day was amazing or something that you can go back to and remind yourself that good days still exist.
Staying positive is one of the hardest things to do when you always think negatively. It won’t happen instantly but the more you stop yourself from looking at the glass half empty, you will start to catch yourself naturally saying it’s half full.
This month, I have decided to do my first ever GIVEAWAY and I will be posting all about the contents and how to enter on here tomorrow so keep your eyes peeled. All the contents of the giveaway are positive and happy things that should bring a little bit of joy to your day – if you feel like you are in need of a little positivity then go over to my twitter (@clairesyear) tomorrow and enter!
Have a lovely day everybody